remember that one way to disrupt someone's plans is to destabilize his timeline
i often view 'maturity' as = desirable characteristics that adults usually have and children do not
Being busy is frantic while being productive is focused. Being busy is fueled by perfectionism while being productive is fueled by purpose. Being busy is about being good at everything while being productive is about being great at a few important things.
Questions to Ask
What did you create today?
All people have melodies.
It rises from them like an aroma.
You search for someone who’s melody can complete yours, make it richer.
You search for someone who can add to the open sentence and ideate what’s next.
A voice that a bit opposes yours but in the end, it fills the melody, makes it wider, richer, more colorful.
”The argument is not in favor or life-span extension per se. Adding extra years of sickness and debility at the end of life would be pointless. The argument is in favor of extending, as far as possible, the human health-span. By slowing or halting the aging process, the healthy human life span would be extended. Individuals would be able to remain healthy, vigorous, and productive at ages at which they would otherwise be dead.”
the 'unlucky' fail to take advantage of high-expected-but-low-median value events
particular actions and states of mind make it more likely you'll benefit from white swans.
On structural writing
- McPhee taught us to revere language, to care about every word, and to abjure the loose synonym. He told us that words have subtle and distinct meanings, textures, implications, intonations, flavors. (McPhee might say: “Nuances” alone could have done the trick there.)
- Use a dictionary, he implored. He proselytized on behalf of the gigantic, unabridged Webster’s Second Edition, a tank of a dictionary that not only would give a definition, but also would explore the possible synonyms and describe how each is slightly different in meaning.
- He favors simplicity in general, and believes a metaphor needs room to breathe. “Don’t slather one verbal flourish on top of another lest you smother them all,” he’d tell his students.
- On one of Amanda’s papers, he numbered the images, metaphors, and similes from 1 to 11, and then declared, “They all work well, to a greater or lesser degree. In 1,300 words, however, there may be too many of them — as in a fruitcake that is mostly fruit.” Which is the nerve-wracking part, still.
- He is likely to read this article and will notice the infelicities, the stray words, the unnecessary punctuation, the galumphing syntax, the desperate metaphors, and the sentences that wander into the woods. “They’re paying you by the comma?” McPhee might write in the margin after reading the foregoing sentence.
- My own student work tended toward the self-conscious, the cute, and the undisciplined, and McPhee sometimes would simply write: “Sober up.” (McPhee noted on a piece Rick wrote about his father: “This is a perfect structure — simple, like a small office building, as you suggest.
- The relationship of time to paragraphing is an example of what building a piece of writing is all about.”)
- We had to learn to read. One of his assignments is called “greening.” You pretend you are in the composing room slinging hot type and need to remove a certain amount of the text block to get it to fit into an available space. You must search the text for words that can be removed surgically “You were working with a practicing creative artist, a writer of ‘primary texts,’ as the scholars say, but one who was eloquent, detailed, unfancy, and clear in the way he talked about essential things: description, reporting, structure, sentences, punctuation, rhythm, to say nothing of the emotional aspects of writing — anxiety, lostness, frustration. He didn’t sugarcoat the difficulty of writing well. If anything, he highlighted the bitter-tasting terrors, he cherished them, rolled them around on his tongue. But behind all that was an immensely revealing, and rewarding, glimpse of the writing life. Not the glamour or the readings or the reviews. No, he allowed you to glimpse the process, what it meant to write alone in a room.”
Complex writing exposes difficult understanding.
Writing is crystallized thinking.
“This sentence has five words. Here are five more words. Five-word sentences are fine. But several together become monotonous. Listen to what is happening. The writing is getting boring. The sound of it drones. It’s like a stuck record. The ear demands some variety.
Now listen. I vary the sentence length, and I create music. Music. The writing sings. It has a pleasant rhythm, a lilt, a harmony. I use short sentences. And I use sentences of medium length. And sometimes, when I am certain the reader is rested, I will engage him with a sentence of considerable length, a sentence that burns with energy and builds with all the impetus of a crescendo, the roll of the drums, the crash of the cymbals–sounds that say listen to this, it is important.”
Language is evolving and becoming a more effective version of itself. I love text shorthand. It's a way to convey content and tone without losing velocity.
There are three types of words: (1) words we know, (2) words we should know, and (3) words nobody knows. Forget those in the third category and use restraint with those in the second. — John Grisham
High impact writing. • No introduction • Short sentences • Short paragraphs • Plain English • Fast points • No wasted words • Clarity above everything
Soon my little habit progressed into a full-on dependency. My markings grew more elaborate — I made stars, circles, checks, brackets, parentheses, boxes, dots and lines (straight, curved and jagged). I noted intra- and extratextual references; I measured cadences with stress marks. Texts that really grabbed me got full-blown essays (sideways, upside-down, diagonal) in the margins. I basically destroyed my favorite books with the pure logorrheic force of my excitement, spraying them so densely with scribbled insight that the markings almost ceased to have meaning. Today I rarely read anything — book, magazine, newspaper — without a writing instrument in hand. Books have become my journals, my critical notebooks, my creative outlets. Writing in them is the closest I come to regular meditation; marginalia is — no exaggeration — possibly the most pleasurable thing I do on a daily basis.
The future of education is about speed-learning how to use the internet to extract, connect, and build on bits of information coming from Big Data.
Learning how to pull out trustworthy resources and knowledge repositories and ultimately connecting the dots faster than anyone else.
And an individual who will be able to navigate through its intricate webs will be the valedictorian of the future.
“You wasted $150,000 on an education you coulda got for $1.50 in late fees at the public library.”
Indefinite attitudes to the future explain what’s most dysfunctional in our world today. Process trumps substance: when people lack concrete plans to carry out, they use formal rules to assemble a portfolio of various options. This describes Americans today. In middle school, we’re encouraged to start hoarding “extracurricular activities.” In high school, ambitious students compete even harder to appear omnicompetent. By the time a student gets to college, he’s spent a decade curating a bewilderingly diverse résumé to prepare for a completely unknowable future. Come what may, he’s ready—for nothing in particular. A definite view, by contrast, favors firm convictions. Instead of pursuing many-sided mediocrity and calling it “well-roundedness,” a definite person determines the one best thing to do and then does it. Instead of working tirelessly to make herself indistinguishable, she strives to be great at something substantive—to be a monopoly of one. This is not what young people do today, because everyone around them has long since lost faith in a definite world. No one gets into Stanford by excelling at just one thing, unless that thing happens to involve throwing or catching a leather ball.
The question I would love to ask you is X.
Here are the things I've already tried.
My tentative plan is Y.
Do you have any other thoughts? I would really appreciate them.
If you are too busy to respond, I totally understand.
[Give them an out so that they feel comfortable not responding and completely unpressured]
I am doing great! It's a... beautiful day... and I am excited to attempt to answer any questions you might have so I am happy to let you take it from here.
The difference between success and failure is doing a thing a second time and then doing it some more.
Making a mistake only empowers me.
Take the journey even if it means alone
The ability to write is a cheat code to build the ability to speak
Wealth Mindset: See everything easy. Poverty Mindset: See everything hard.
Slow-carb diet - min. 10+ - stoicism and compassion.
In a world where people expect immediate responses, you have to let bad things happen constantly to have an agenda of your own and to get the big things done. It's recognizing that to prevent all the feelings, all the problems, all the emotional breakdown is impossible. So effectively just saying "I'm going to accept the collateral damage and believe that what I am embarking upon is more important than minor or reversible problems and than forging ahead."
Every morning he goes on a run to stop and take a photograph of a flower.
You only have to get a few things right. You only need to cultivate a handful of skills to be successful. Deal making, negotiating, non-violent communication, prioritization - and you are going to win at the game of life.
Integrate Fear-Setting into your selling process.
Avoid fixing weaknesses.
Stop trying to constantly fix the chinks in your armor.
Rules for success: • have other interests • work on your business • do rock climbing • get outside If one goes wrong, you still have the other and you can remain optimistic each week.
Stop trying to constantly fix the chinks in your armor.
Use your best weapons.
Money can't buy friends, but you can get a better class of enemies.
Deconstructing failure can be a cathartic/pragmatic experience: it helps you uncover when you do a post-game analysis of what is holding you back, ideologies, perhaps, or mental models that need to evolve.
Rule for success: invest in things that you understand.
Paid exposure vs. Unpaid exposure. I like to focus on unpaid because it forces you to make better decisions in the beginning.
Next week's reading list: ➡️The 22 Immutable Laws of Marketing
➡️1000 True Fans
➡️Bestselling Book Publicity
Learn to tell the story.
The monkey brain is inside all of us in some capacity. The incessant internal dialog. Like an irritating roommate that you have in your head and we can all think back to say, elementary school. Fix it: capture your monkey mind, its complaints or insecurities on paper so that it is not caught on repeat for the rest of the day. Start journaling.
Stoic philosophy is in essence the operating system that I use for making better decisions or try to use.
I don't have a high degree of confidence in willpower or necessarily discipline. I have a high degree of confidence in Systems, Accountability & Loss Aversion, which creates the illusion of discipline.
Add the following to your recipe:
- Accountability &
- Loss Aversion, which creates the illusion of discipline
Go after it!
Whether you like it or not — everyone is a salesperson.
Who cares the least — wins.
Integrate Fear-Setting into your selling process.
You want the counterparty to negotiate against themselves first.
Ask them to make the first offer to make the ball rolling and initiate the conversation.
Do A Flinch — If someone makes an offer, try to first react with silence, or pause for indirectly perceivable "dramatic" effect.
Ask: Is this the best you can do? Drill into what the counterpart wants and work on understanding the needs behind their request. Do they want to achieve their quota? Or because they might wanna be famous or retain branding.
Whether you like it or not — everyone is a salesperson. If you can, organize your life to avoid negotiation altogether. Put systems in place for that.
More creativity. Less reaction to notifications. Walk barefoot on the ground. Lift heavy objects. Play with the dog. That won't sacrifice anything.
In a world where people expect immediate responses, you have to let bad things happen constantly to have any agenda of your own and to get the big things done. It's recognizing that to prevent all the feelings, all the problems, all the emotional breakdown is impossible. So effectively just saying "I'm going to accept the collateral damage and believe that what I am embarking upon is more important than minor or reversible problems and than forging ahead."
One of the best pieces of advice I ever received related to negotiation was super simple -
HE WHO CARES LESS WINS
If you have walk-away power or the ability to just say no, you win.
If someone tries to pressure to meet me to make a decision quickly, the answer is NO. Any on-the-spot decision that you want me to make or forcing me to make, the answer is no and there's tremendous power in that. It's a muscle that you strengthen as you practice it and you realize like: Oh, shit, the world did not end.
I don't have 5 or 10-year plans. I generally look at my life as 6-month projects or 2-week experiments within those projects. And I choose those 6-month projects in such a way that even if they fail by the most objective metrics we might use, I will develop relationships and skills that persist past that project. Whether a project fails or not, I can succeed regardless because I'm accumulating skills and relationships that transcend and last much longer than any project.
And if you do that just from the snowball effect of relationships and skills, you will succeed on a meta-level.
I'm just a process guy.
You have (to a certain extent) a finite amount of decision-making allocation for each day. Including creative decisions. The more you can create constraints for all the mundane nonsense: breakfast, lunch, where you go, how you get there, what are you wearing etc.
You just have to find the recipe. What is a recipe?
It's simply a series of steps, things that are executed to produce a predictable response.
I don't have a high degree of confidence in willpower or discipline necessarily. I have a high degree of confidence in Systems, Accountability & Loss Aversion, which creates the illusion of discipline.
Essentialism by Greg McKeown
The Who book
The Ultimate Sales Machine
The Sales acceleration formula
"Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman!": Adventures of a Curious Character
Things to improve and use
Speeding up your mousepad
Alfred app or Google
Facebook newsfeed eradicator
Try to optimize your bed ( change your matress maybe) - check (MyPillow) - try this tonight (Reading the Martian)
RECHECK THE MARTIAN
Organize your money
Make your bed
Always make sure you have an incredible bed and 1 incredible pair of shoes(VANS). Because if you are not in the bed, you are in the shoes, and the other way around.
Do the coffee chalange - ask for 10% off when ordering a coffee or a tea
You can start a blog and post fragments of your story like the guy who wrote The Martian
Schedule learning 2 hours every Thursday lets say
Sometimes a little discomfort in the beginning can save a whole lot of pain down the road.